This has to do with stress! Academic and work related. Everything regarding obligations and responsibilities. Think of them like pro-tips to get back on your feet and believe in yourself.
This is definitely a work in progress; I have so much more to add and so little time.
In the meantime, good luck my friend :’)
5 things that got me off of my bedroom floor listening to Billy Boyd’s The Last Goodbye (from the Hobbit Soundtrack) and straight into the world of obligations/responsibilities without feeling like I’m going to explode
- This article, 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do, hit the nail right on the head. I realized I still did half of these things, and rather than berating myself for it, I made it a goal to simply stop doing it. Never put yourself down for being yourself. Treat yourself like a work in progress, because that’s what you are. Nothing you are is set in stone; you have the power to build and continue building yourself.
- Kanye West, because he has enough self-confidence for the rest of us, and his music will make you feel like you can do anything. Also, Survivor by Destiny’s Child
- MEDITATING. Rest your mind before you go to bed. You’ll be infinitely more rested. Get off your phone, read a book or close your eyes and meditate. You’ve probably heard this 104 times, but seriously. It works. It declares a definitive end to your day and allows your body to truly rest and reset.
- Taking ownership of my responsibilities. (This is so important.) See, you COULD mope and whine about how hard something is. You could do that. OR you could own it. Tell yourself that you have to do it. Once you take full ownership of your responsibilities and tell yourself that you’re going to do them well, you will be incredible. The tasks will be less painful, and you’ll get caught up in completing them rather than the act of completing them.
- Delegating tasks, asking for help, writing things down, setting goals, making lists and spreadsheets. You know. The whole shebang.
It’s not personal, it’s just business.
If you’re stressed about work, reflect upon what about it is stressing you out? Does it just seem like a hard task? Do you not want to do it? Does it seem like a lot of work?
Well then, make a plan, write it down (notice the emphasis on writing it down, or putting it on a list) and then you have to do it! Don’t make it a personal feat that’s subject to your emotions. Make it something that you are obligated to do, just another task to cross off your list.
You perpetuate your stress by putting it off. The more time a stressful thing stays in your head, the longer amount of time it has to fester inside your heart and stress you out. Get it done.
It’s out of your hands.
Ask yourself these questions:
- Can I do anything about it?
- Does it concern me?
- Is this in the hands of another person?
If you answered no to these questions, then do not stress about it. Yes, you can think about it (only a little bit) and be empathetic to the situation, whatever it may be, but do not worry about it.
Please, if you play a part in it, then do everything you think is necessary to secure your side of it. But once you’ve finished your piece, then it’s done. There is no point in clogging your arteries and raising your blood pressure with stress if you cannot handle it yourself.
Once your college application is in, once your job interview is finished, once you’ve gotten home from that first date, once you heard that Becky got a new boyfriend, and he’s hot and blah-blah-blah-gossip and stuff– just don’t worry about it. It’s out of your hands. Let it be.
NOW, I’m not saying that you should just drop everything once you think you’re done. What I’m saying is that you should 100% commit yourself to everything in your own life. The big things, the small things, all of it. Don’t spend your energy on things that you cannot control, spend it on things that you can control.
The Comfort Spot — This allows you to make an anonymous account and anonymously vent about how you feel, and anonymous people will send you little motivational words and make you feel better. It’s very cute. Really. A lot of sites by thequietplaceproject are perfect to take a deep breath.
Dogs Eating with Human Hands — a necessary video
I highly recommend the book An Astronauts Guide to Life on Earth by Col. Chris Hadfield. I am in the middle of reading it, and it refocused all of my stress into motivation. (Hopefully, it will affect you in the same way it has affected me). (Hopefully, you don’t have to be an aspiring astronaut to love it.) (I’m sure you’ll enjoy it, though.) (It’s well worth the read.) (He’s my hero.)
Tea. Not only can you be cute and pet your dog while drinking a nice cup of green next to a window, listening to the Ghost Stories album by Coldplay, but also 15 minutes later you’ll have more energy to kick it into gear and get back to work! Best of both worlds, I must
Exercise. Run it out. Walk and take in that deep breath. The answer is in the dumbbells. Punch that punching bag. Change in scenery + a distraction = you’ll be okay, buddy.
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In conclusion, you can do it! If you need any other tips or pieces of advice, feel free to email me. I may be able to offer some insight and might even add it to this page. Best of luck!
*Featured Image: The Windhover at Stanford University