Love, Heartbreak, Dissonance between your head and heart, etc.

I am a teen, and I know nothing about love, but I am trying my best and hope this can help in any way shape or form

Here is a poem to keep you hopeful and understanding of the inconveniently beautiful thing that is love: xx

“It’s okay, take a deep breath. Your feelings are valid, and you have every right to be upset.” *Click*

“How To Succeed In Heartbreak” a spoken word poem by Victoria Morgan (Empowering. Hilarious. This got me through a week of, not even heartbreak, but like just a poopy, “meh” kind of feeling. 10/10 A+)

There’s a song for everything. Really. And then once you find that song, sing it at the top of your lungs. (Suggestions: Best Thing I Never Had by Beyonce, We Won’t by James Young, Reflections by MisterWives)

Spotify playlist for when you’re still a little sad: X

Spotify playlist for when you’re moving on: X

Spotify playlist for when you’re melancholy and want to calm down: X

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Tumblr user pomfette says:

“if you miss someone who does not miss you, or who is no good for you, or is unattainable, take all the love you once felt for them and spread it around other places. put your love in worthwhile people and things, turn the romance in to passions for hobbies or admiration for others- enrich your own life. focus on yourself and those who actively make you happy.”

Also..

“Remember that you were art long before he came to admire you, and you’ll continue to be art even when he’s gone.”

— a masterpiece is still a masterpiece when the lights are off, and the room is empty // charlotte geier

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Also (if you’re angry), take this poem and swallow it whole.

Allow it to ignite your flame and spark to dive into a world without that person without ever looking back. xx

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Also, remember (if you are still very much in love and that person is 8 hours away):

“Absence diminishes small loves and increases great ones, as the wind blows out the candle and fans the bonfire.”

— François de La Rochefoucauld, Maxims

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Izzy’s Pieces of Advice —

1. Cry. Cry, then take a shower, fix your hair, make yourself your favorite snack, put on your favorite album or movie, or go on a walk. I strongly recommend the Secret Life of Walter Mitty (it gets your mind to think about how big the world is and how many possibilities and opportunities are available to you beyond this time of distress).
2. You were worth the world before that person and will continue to be worth the world hereafter. There are poems and creative prose pieces out on the Internet that emphasize the concepts of “being saved” and “being completed” by an S.O.. Well, those are creative pieces. They speak truth; they speak raw emotion, yet it is so important to remember that your life is not defined by a genre. A poem may define how you feel in an instant, but how you feel should not be defined by a poem. There comes a point where you just need to pick yourself up by your bootstraps and avoid that realm of the world and simply tell yourself that you are standing on your own two feet, and you don’t need their arms to hold you up anymore.
3. It’s okay to be angry. It’s okay not to understand. It’s okay to feel sorry for that person for losing someone like you. It is not okay to beat yourself up about it and throw yourself into an existential crisis because you feel like you’re not good enough.
4. If you are the heartbreak-er (essentially): Communicate. Communicate. Communicate, gosh darn it. You have your own side to this story, and I respect that, and I understand everyone has a reason behind everything they do. But you need to communicate why you believe this is what’s best. I respect you and your decision, but for gods sake you better tell the truth. If you inexplicably ditch your partner and are an immature sack about it, then that’s when you’re the bad guy. You don’t have to be the bad guy.

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Now, if you are in love–

I am so happy for you, honey!!

Remember, don’t lose yourself in that person. I cannot stress this enough. It is a beautiful thing to allow yourself to live within that person, but I want you to know that you are an individual above all else.

First person plural is a dangerous game, my friend.

Now, here is an adorable spoken word poem by Sarah Kay called “Worst Poetry” that will make you feel all bubbly.

Here’s a cute poem I wrote one time after watching a movie from the point of view of one of the characters and it’s awfully generic, but maybe it’ll apply to you and maybe you’ll like it: xx

Also, here is a general warning that I also wrote that I hope you will take to heart and interpret as you wish: xx 

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This page will continue to grow as I accumulate more things, but I wish you the very best of luck. Feel free to email me with any more questions, comments, or concerns and I hope you feel the sun in your heart even in the dead of night. ❤

Love, Izzy